Annie in wonderland

So this is a very quick post about how to talk to someone with special needs about death and I have linked some other content down below about it as well.  So looking at this can really help as well.  As it is something that isn't really discussed in disability circles and it needs to be as it can harm the person more in the long run.  So being honest with the person is always a good thing, to be honest with people is great.  Also letting them go to the funeral and preparing them for it is another big thing as well.  In having them understand what is happening we see that they are much more prepared for it and understand that it would happen to them as well.  Also, let the person ask questions about death and let them be curious, I have linked some children's books as well because many people won't have the words but a book can help.  Top 10 children's books on death and bereavement | Children's books | The Guardian How to Talk to your Child with Speci...

This is a post that will focus on Jace Lightwood, the adopted brother of Izzy and Alec, we see that he is treated differently and I may depending on readership, do another deep dive into his mindset so let me know either by email or the comments if you would like me to do a deep dive into his mindset throughout the show and how it relates to Clary and how it changes over time and how he matures into himself.   So we see that Jace was adopted into the Lightwood family at the age of ten yet we see that this isn't the truth of the matter and we are led to believe that Valentine actually rescued him as a baby and saved his life, we see this when Magnus and Valentine's brain is swapped and Magnus is in Valentine's body and he is trying to make people see that he is actually Magnus, he tells Alec details that only Magnus could know about their travels and dates.  We see that Jace tells Alec after he goes to Jace about his concerns not to believe him as Valentine could have inva...

Please be aware that this post contains a discussion on Suicide and Trauma  This is a continuation of this series looking at the mental health of the Shadow Hunters focusing on Maryse.  We are going to focus on the second season and her growth as the challenges of the Shadow world become more complex and Clary coming into the world has changed things fundamentally.  Shadowhunters S02E01 Alec and Maryse - YouTube  In this clip we see that even in the second season where they believe that Jace is Valentine's son, we see that she is still trying to be in total control of the situation. However, as Alec says does she even realize what she is saying as he is Alec's parabaiti ,  and they are bonded in a way that if you kill one of them you kill a part of the other person.  She still believes that she can keep the legacy of the family name ok, as we see that the lightwoods have a legacy to uphold and this way on her, however, Alec seems to push back from her as we...

This is a continuation of the series of the Lightwood family that is talking about family dysfunction, this is the second post focusing on Izzy Lightwood and her behavior resulting from her relationships with her parents and later her brothers. We see in this clip that their mother favors political alliance's over the family's happiness, and order over comfort. Their mother needs a quick political alliance to restore their influence at the Clave, this is the organization that oversees the Shadow Hunters internationally. It is based in Alicante the Shadow Hunter's spiritual homeland. That is glamoured to Mundane much like most of the Shadow World. This leads to her seeking out relationships that don't have any real attachment to them before she meets Raphaelle and later Simon. Her secure attachment isn't to her Mother and Father it is to Alec and we see that he is the Caregiver of the siblings. Izzy is anxious in her attachment style, she is attached to her ...

So I was writing a post about the Relationship of the Lightwood family and I realized that this Family has all of the hallmarks of being very dysfunctional is very dysfunctional. The mother Maryse is obsessed with the family image to the detriment of the family and each of the siblings seems to fall into the trope of a person within a dysfunctional family.  Dysfunctional family - Wikipedia  This isn't a  healthy environment for anyone to grow up in yet they do manage to heal after being exposed to a spell that shows people's worst fears through hallucinations, that were caused after being cast by a warlock that is looking for Magnus as he rescued one of her warlock children due to the situation she was living in and she was being used by several people for her magic.  This spell brings out people's worst fears and we see the effects of the life that the Shadowhunters are currently living.  Especially Alec as we see throughout the show that he blames himself...