Mangus Bane and the Deal, and similarities' to disablity decision making.

This is going to be a hard post to write, and I do wonder about how it shows people with disabilities are treated every day. We see that Alec is hiding his decisions from his mother he did talk about this to Izzy but we see she tried to talk him out about it. 

So, in Alec making this deal we see that he sacrificed for Mangus out of love for him, we do see that people need to be aware of what is happening to people in their lives. We see that Asmodeus was quite manipulative in asking Alec to break up with Magnus. 

He doesn't have Magnus's best interest at heart and we see that this does become an issue in that Magus was used by both the Shadowhunter, Vampires, and Asmodus we see that this all comes together and we see that Mangus was able to use humor as a tool to defuse bad situations but we see that when people start making decisions for him without him he gets angry and this is very common in disabilities we call it acting out, however when the person has some control in their lives we see that this becomes a bigger issue that we see that they have some level of direction and control and feel much better with this and it might not be a full level of control it might be as simple as then deciding what to have for dinner, or if they want to go to a day center or to go to a job or to have a job, this is where Magnus being immortal comes into the character arc that he has had to rebuild his life several times and to become a different person all over again. 

We also see that Maryse was the person who put the pieces together and we see Magnus take his anger out on his father so they can be together.  

In bringing it back to reality and the real world the examples I can find are that people with a disability are treated like this all the time that they are led to believe that what is best for them is not what they decided but what others have decided for them. 

We see in the past that Alec wanted to "Cure," Magnus after what happened in the heavenly fire and we see that this has a massive impact on Alec as we see the stark differences in the day, when alec is getting ready for work and Mangus is looking for a place but other than that he has nothing to do and we see that this is an issue for him in that he retreats into drinking. 

Like I retreat into writing when I am in pain, I also see that the people around Mangus forget that he has been through a lot, and this is something that they don't consider that he used to have all the time in the world to fix problems and he had to come to terms with becoming mundane and we see that this is an issue as well. 

However, in disability, this is what we call infantilization the person is treated like a teen when they have the physical and emotional capacity to deal with life as an adult and we see this a lot in people with a disability, that care workers (I am using this more than support workers due to having an international audience) protect them from themselves and this can lead to what we call learned dependence. 

So, we see that in pushing a person to achieve at their level and addressing things that they may not be aware of we see that it does have some consequences, and this is that they never emotionally grow up and take their place in the world. 

However this is a very complex issue and I will do a deep dive into these issues a lot more and talk about the complexity of these issues as well, as it is complex in the way that some caregivers don't see it as a form of over care and others might not they see it as a duty of care, and we also do see on the more extreme end cohesive control so a caregiver convincing someone that what they are doing that makes the person life easier for them, is in their best interests when it may not be, so batch cooking meals instead of cooking each meal might work for one person but not for another as well, due to the nature of their disability. 

We also see that people with disabilities aren't given the time or space to grieve the life that they use to have or the connections they used to have can be a massive issue as well, as well as losing a support worker as they in the case of a good support worker do become part of the family and this becomes an issue as well.