Shadowhunter's Malec and other relationships. - Robert and Maryse lightwood.

So this is a post that I have really wanted to do for a while as we start to see Alec stand up to people in his life and standing up to your family is the hardest thing that you will do especially as a person with a disablity. As they want to protect you but you want to be challenged yourself to live your best life.

However what that life is is different for everyone even without a disablity due to the decisions they made and the circumstance's that they where born into. Alec didn't make the decision for himself at what he was to be in life he was essentially born to be a Shadowhunter and that is his world. He even states directly that he will never understand "Mundane's," as his world that he has been brought up in is the Shadoworld. 

We start to see the disapproval of his family as yes it would have been better to call off the Wedding to not embarrass  Lydia and his family, however we see that Alec really up until the last minute does believe he is doing the right thing.   But we do see that the family be challenged by Alec's decision and his  sexuality and this is something that the actors that play Alec Lightwood and Magnus Bane ( Alec Lightwood is played by Matthew Daddario and Magnus Bane is played by Harry Shum jr) have talked about being very respectful to the relationship and how it plays out. This did win them awards for representation. 

Harry Shum Jr. & Matthew Daddario Interview | Glaad Awards 2017 - YouTube

Also Maryse does make this about herself and the family and Mangus starts to see the complexity of Shadowhunter's families. We also do see Alec's father ask about are they in love and try to understand what is happening. Yet we do see the Shadowhunter's prejudice at play here. It's not on the surface about  about the gender of the warlock and it being a same sex relationship  but the fact he is a downworlder is the issue. We see Alec's relationship with his parents being quite combative at time's. So there for the other relationships are also quite combative. As Alec is competing to be his own person. 

We don't see much of the lightwood parents as they seem to be away a lot so this is why Alec is the acting head of the institute. Yet we see a stark difference in the way that Maryse and Robert treat there children. They are very hard on Alec and Izzy but not hard on Jace and this seems to be a common issue in some families that isn't talked about it is a complex called the golden child. 

Dysfunctional Family Roles — Out of the Storm

Yet when Alec gets positive attention he is very confused by it and seems to not know how to respond and we start to see this due to his relationship with his parents, that are more obsessed with there political careers than there own  children.  

Have talked about how they played the seen out that they both steel themselves for the fallout and Magnus says about not underestimating the power of a mothers love.  We do actually see Maryse develop into a kind person when she herself is striped of her own runes and position due to her role in the Circle as well.