When giving up is the best thing you can do

  

So many people have said that the best thing that you can do for yourself is to never give up, but in the context of disability sometimes it is the best thing you can do, for your physical, mental, and emotional health. 

Some really obvious things are: 

• Giving up trying to go at the same pace as others 
• Trying to achieve the same goals as others (this might be true for some but not others) 
• Trying to please others all the time - this might lead to others being angry because you are no longer a people pleaser and taking a risk. (I will do a longer post on this one as I am seeing so many people for the sake of having friends and support not understand the difference between friendship and being used) 
•  Pushing yourself to be normal and being fatigued because of it. - This just doesn't work and can make your disability or illness so much worse 
• Seeing that work is the point of life and feeling guilty if you can't work - yet you still need a purpose in life, so that could be keeping your job and working part-time, volunteering, or like myself turning your experiences into education. 

However, there are some things that you shouldn't really give up on that some people do. 

Advocating for yourself and your needs: 

This can be with care organizations that want to push you into inappropriate programs or even having to push back against care organizations that don't deliver what they have claimed to do and charge for it. 

 The family that confuses care with control, or seeks to milk your disability, (as this is becoming more overt as people make social media their income and mainly children it is a laudable goal to seek to raise awareness but what about  the risks to the child later in life.)

Seeking out like-minded people -  people who understand your limitations, your housing situations or you need someone around the house and this could be family a housemate, or a paid care person. 

Not wanting to improve yourself (however this can become a thing that you need to give up on at times) could be as simple as being able to call a friend, taking an online class, or a face-to-face one if it's safe to. 

Trying to make friends that understand you as if you have friends that are constantly trying to fix you, or wanting something from you,  are they really your friends?