Annie in wonderland

 So I have been talking to my friends about this and this resonated with me so hard about emotions getting in the way and sacrifice as in my own life I wanted to have the same things that everyone else has but I have had challenges that no one else in my friendship group never has had to face. When I did try to "fit in," to the disability community in my area it made me realize that my upbringing was fundamentally different from others that have disabilities. I was expected to work or volunteer to not "mope around the house all day."  Like wanting approval from parents and teachers but not understanding the internal struggles that people who present with high functioning disabilities, have and the emotional trauma that can bring.  If you substitute the institute for society it sees that yes Alec is different and can't follow his heart, he is doing this out of duty,  not out of love out of what his society expects of him and this can be traumatic.  The thing that

  But you don't look disabled  - general translation, I don't see many people with disabilities, so I don't know what to say and I can't see a great conversation starter.  I have an "insert," family member here that has a disability so I feel that  I can talk about this issue.  - Translation I have seen the impact of one disability on my family so feel that I am qualified to talk about it without consulting anyone else in the disabled community.    But you are so high functioning this term needs its own blog post as how it is used and how it is meant in the medical community are two very different things.   I didn't realize you needed support - well everyone needs support at times and sometimes it is paid people, to take the burden off family and friends.  But when your who old and live with your parents - this can lead to some interesting conversations around disability and care as some people with a disability can live independent lives some can't. S

  'Shadowhunters' Star Harry Shum Jr Reveals Details of the Final Season - YouTube   , Harry has done a lot for breaking down stereotypes and pushing back in writers rooms and he has said that it is challenging to have those conversations and take that risk but it is happening. We are also seeing this happen with who get's roles and how post Covid people are auditioning for the roles, so things like a zoom interview's, that eliminates stress, or recruiting people who do "shipping"  and post them on   YouTube for post production.  I remember seeing a clip where he was talking about Mike in  Glee, and pushing back about  the jokes as if they are on TV it is going to be seen as ok  to make the same jokes in reality.   In Shadowhunter's,  he has talked about how it was such a fun role yet challenging for him as they said they don't own the charcters as they are based on the charcters created by Cassandra Care in the book series. Yet it shows a level of res

  Alec presents as very closed off and suffering from what seems to be anxiety, and not comfortable in his own skin he presents as a very closed person and growing up in what is essential if you were to translate it to the real world a military organization it seems that there is an order of things and the reason he is so closed off and not comfortable in his own skin is he is not acknowledging a very core part of himself his sexuality.   This is raised in the episode, called Raising Hell, ( season 1)  the main character needs to give up memory as a payment for a demon, to get the memory back from Clary the main character, that has been hidden along with relics that belong to the "Shadow world," Alec is a part of an organization that essentially there purpose in life is to keep the Mundine's safe from the Shadow World.  So things that people think are the stuff of legends and fairy tales.  They are raised in what is called the institute, and these institutes are headed up

  So I have talked about this actor before  and even read some of the Youtube comments about him and his wife, there isn't a single thing that I can find that is bad press about him. If it is commented on it is in a context of natural diversity in casting, helping young or under appreciated talent and the education and intelligence of some of the fandoms he is in due to the projects he is involved in, he also understands the importance of being honest about his roots, and that acting isn't an easy gig and how his parents where concerned about how he would live.  Yet this post is in the content of what mental health professionals call Parasocial bonds when someone forms an unhealth attachment to a character or an actor and is under the illusion  that they know the person when in reality they don't.  This is different to being a fandom or sending fan mail and respecting the actors personal lives as with social media and Comic cons people seem to blur the lines between real li

  So I have written a lot about the character Magnus from the TV series Shadowhunters, and I am focusing on the TV character’s as I haven’t read the books in quite a long time. But I thought it was time to focus on Alec(Shadowhunter) as he is an interesting character when you look at the relationships he has with the other people on the show.   As the settings of the show are essentially mirroring a lot of real-life issues.   There has been a lot written on this and discussed both off and online. These are issuing that young people face in what essentially is a very traditional society, as Alec is a Shadowhunter and their purpose in the world is to hunt demons, they are trained from a very young age, to do so and this is reflected in the show and the way that even the actors understand it. As the younger Shadowhunters find relationships, Alec seems to be the odd one out and it comes out in the show that he is gay and closeted. It is revealed in the episode titled raising hell in th

Actors that I have a great deal of respect for them, I discovered Harry Shum jr later in my life as I  mentioned before that I have chronic illness and disabilities and due to this spend far too much time on the couch watching either Youtube or Netflix.  I discovered him in what I would say is a cult hit 'Shadowhunter', playing a character that I really resonate with; a bisexual warlock and the tragedy of his life is he is immortal. So this play's into the idea of well what happens when you don't have to plan for the end of your life but you see the lives of people around you age and die.  What do you do with your time yes he has magic powers to heal and his position as the high warlock is from what I see in the show and books more a political one, being open to warlocks that have issues, and he seems to help a lot of what they call the downworlders, so generally vampires, werewolf's are the ones that seem to be the main ones in what the show and books call the Shad

  Their lives can be ruined by rumors and innuendo just as much as women especially people in the public eye, and people in such diverse industries. That young man fears offending women due to equality has been taught that women get offended by it, this could be true for some people but not for all, women, and in some industries not all of them. Social media has made this so much worse as people don’t forget anymore it stays up forever and not everyone every day needs to be reminded of one small mistake they made. It can also be taken out of context in a very real way and if people have video editing skills it can end up on the internet and cause a lot of damage to reputations.   People don’t have the compassion they used to, and people would take the time to educate themselves on what they had done wrong and how they could not make the same mistake.     Has dating ruined the way some men feel about relationships or being in a healthy relationship? So things like the men go t

  This is more around same-sex couples and the actors that played the characters in the TV adaptation of Shadowhunters from the book series by Casandra Clare.  They were respectful in their representation of this couple and showed a side that hadn't really been explored before in a fantasy setting and this show didn't shy away from very real complex issues.  This was groundbreaking in its portrayal of same-sex couples and treating them like any other couple and not queer bating it.    Shadowhunters Wins Outstanding Drama Series l 28th Annual GLAAD Media Award - YouTube As Matthew Daddario has said in this clip at an award show he was glad that people knew that people would be crazy to put him up there as at the time he had very little experience in navigating the media and being a big name.  Shadowhunters Wins Choice Sci-Fi/Fantasy TV Show & Choice Sci-Fi/Fantasy TV Actor - YouTube He has also been an actor that has had some hiccups but he has been able to recover from them

  These are two actors I admire Harry Shum jr and Matthew Daddario, that have both received well deserved awards for the work they are doing both on an off screen. I got talking to a friend about them and it was a interesting conversation as  when you talk to people about these two actors only a few hiccups' they have had in there acting careers, and even then they where caused by there colleagues not  themselves.  I know that Harry Shum jr has a interview's  where he says that he isn't in the industry for the fame he is in it to make a difference, he certainly has done this both on and off screen.  It reminded me that it takes very  little to make a difference and how much having a realistic attitude to what you can achieve is amazing. This is key in the disablity community being real and not setting yourself up for major disappointment. As what you can achieve with a disablity can be different to what an able bodied person can.     He has also managed to champion minority